TJ Talks | Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

 Something I really want to talk about today is a problem I see most people dealing with and that’s comparing yourself to others. You know, I meet with a lot of people day in, day out, clients, peers, mentors even. A constant theme is always looking around and comparing yourself to either other people's success, other people's material possessions, other people's personal life. We look at social media. We see people taking vacations; write this perfect snapshot of their life that is definitely doctored and that they want us to see. All it does is demoralize and demotivate the person I'm talking to.

So whenever I have somebody start saying things like, “oh but so and so has this” or “so and so just got this award and I wish I had that.” I try to redirect them to look in the mirror and start asking yourself “what do I need to do to get the things that I want? How do I get the promotion that I want? How do I get the pay raise that I want? How do I get the accolades? How do I save up and take these vacations?” Whatever it is that you're hoping to get or gain or be a part of; what are the things that you can do personally to get you there? You need to start looking at where you were to where you are now to where you want to be instead of somebody else and their progress. Everybody is different. You don't know the effort or the work that they put into getting what they did. You're just seeing the results. So it's not a fair comparison to look at you and where you're at and them where they're at. It's just never a lateral comparison. Really start looking at where you were, where you are and where you want to go. Be proud of the things that have gotten you to where you are and start making a plan to get to where you want to go. It's much harder than sitting there saying I wish I had those things or I wish I was there. But, I'm telling you if you start now you're going to see results before you know it.

If you need help self reflecting and identifying these things or setting up a plan of how you can get to where you want to go, reach out. Reach out to us. Reach out to a peer group or your support network, you have hopefully a mentor or someone who can really give you that unbiased opinion (as unbiased as it can be I guess) on how to help you get there. Please guys, start looking inside and quit looking outside. It's never, never beneficial to you. All it's going to do is slow you down. We've all got goals.

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