Actions speak louder than words. How many times have you heard that? Probably lots. Body language helps you read between the lines of what’s being said to understand what’s not being said - and the person’s
It’s proven that body language is one of the most important ways we communicate the meaning of our message. And many times body language is the only way we communicate. A shrug of the shoulders, wink or smirk say so much without saying a word. These are great signals to look for in a normal conversation. But what about when the stakes get higher?
What is that job applicant not saying in the interview? What’s that potential resident NOT saying? And can you trust that investment guy who has a deal that sounds too good to be true? Did your kids eat the donuts off the counter… or did the dog? Yes, body language can be the key to lie detection and missing the signs can be expensive.
In highly emotional conversations, body language can be key to understanding what’s really being said.And most conversations have an emotional component, even though people won’t admit it. As smart and logical as we thing we are, we act primarily on feelings, not logic.
The police, FBI and TSA think body language is so important that they’re spending piles of money to train their staff to use it to solve crimes and even to monitor you at the airport security line. A person who isn’t telling the whole truth may clear their throat, stammer or change their pitch as if to try and sway your attention away from their lie or in order to stall so they may have time to think up a valid answer or plausible explanation.
Additionally, foot tapping or bouncing, blushing, putting their hand to their face, turning away or raising their shoulders may all be indicators that they are uncomfortable with the conversation because they are not telling the truth. Lie detection is just one of the things that is important for everyday communication. Body language also impacts first impressions, persuasion in sales, negotiations, apartment leasing… and generally your ability to get what you want out of any exchange.
Body language can be a key component in job interviewing.
Are you sitting up straight and looking the interviewer in the eye, showing them you mean business? Or are you slouching in your chair, looking like you don’t care? Are you bouncing
That says you want out of there! Or are you still and composed.
Are you wringing your hands and playing with your cuffs?
That sends signs of nervousness.
Remember first impressions last. Are you hunched over your phone in the waiting area for your interview, making yourself look small and powerless and creating the neurology of lack of confidence in yourself? If nothing else, stand up in the waiting room for a job interview. Give yourself a chance to create the neurology of confidence and look powerful to your interviewer. Let them know you’re at ease and confident with the subject matter and can handle whatever assignment they give you.
So yes, body language is important. Take the time to study and use it and you’ll start to see the results quickly. And you’re in luck!! Internationally recognized body language expert Traci Brown will be speaking at our conference! Be sure to come and you’ll learn to get ahead by uncovering secrets hidden in plain sight.
Traci Brown is a Body Language and Unconscious Persuasion Expert. Through dynamic presentations she assists groups across all industries learn the tools to hear “Yes!” more easily and more often. Traci is a Three Time US Collegiate Cycling Champion and former member of Team USA. Through sports she became keenly aware that her mind was the primary factor which determined her success.